There's nothing more disheartening, insomnia-inducing, and stomachache-creating than caring for someone's child when you are in a relationship with them, only to find out the reason they don't want to be with the other parent is based on abuse. The system doesn't allow us to do anything about it. Calls to CPS go uninvestigated. The court system needs the child to confess to another party or mandatory reporter. The child doesn't want to report it because they are afraid, due to the fact their whole life the abusive parent has also been controlling and manipulative, and always "gets their way" or "is the boss," and therefore perceived as an entity that cannot be faced in any manner without dire consequence. you would think being crammed in a house with no personal space, a sex offender and felon who is left to watch the child alone, and a parent abusing you would be enough for the courts to do something, but no. The child stays in limbo, the non-abusive parent has to cut through major red tape, nothing gets accomplished. Breeding a environment with love is easy to do, if you are also breeding fear into that environment, you shouldn't be a parent. A child should feel safe. A child should feel they can communicate anything, not slapped, punched, or called derogatory swear words when they question what they perceive as unequal or unfair time sharing between parents. I'm fucking disgusted. I think a lot of this has to do with courts still being fairly weighted in the mother's favor, but supposedly we live in a county that promotes positive co-parenting and working together, and fair time shares.

I'm so scared, I'd hate to be a kid in this situation, and I can't do much without money for a lawyer to go fight this one out and make it happen for us.

Some people shouldn't lie about birth control to get knocked up, maybe they should just get a cat instead. A child is a human, and it may resemble its father, or have personality traits of its father, and pointing those things out when you are angry to the child is harmful, especially when you have nothing good to say about the father, and instead spend all your time talking about the past and how terrible the father is, say you hate him, and say manipulative horrible things to the kid about their father.

I'm so saddened by the system, and watching a child fall through the cracks.

Apparently living with a sex offender/felon in a little house with 5 other people, with a parent verbally, emotionally and physically abusing you just isn't enough for someone to come to action. I would think they'd be more on the side of preventing child abuse, instead of waiting for her to get a black eye or raped before doing something.

In a perfect world...